A Literary Prescription for

Isolation

For the particular ache of being surrounded by the world and still feeling entirely alone in it.

Isolation is not always the same as being alone, and solitude is not always the same as isolation. What distinguishes them is whether the aloneness is chosen — whether it feeds you or simply empties you further. When it empties you, books can be among the most effective remedies, because reading is one of the few activities that is simultaneously solitary and deeply connected. The books, poems, and words gathered here are for exactly that paradox.

“Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.”
May Sarton, Journal of a Solitude

Books

Books to read for isolation

Books that understand isolation from the inside.

01

Stoner

John Williams · 1965

Williams’s rediscovered masterpiece follows a man whose inner life is far richer than anyone around him ever notices. Stoner is profoundly isolated — in his marriage, his work, his institution — and yet Williams writes him with such quiet dignity that the novel becomes, paradoxically, one of the most companionable books ever written. For isolated readers, meeting Stoner is itself a kind of company.

02

The Old Man and the Sea

Ernest Hemingway · 1952

Santiago is eighty-four days without a catch, alone on the sea, in a battle with a fish no one will ever witness. Hemingway’s novella is a study in what a person can contain when there is no one left to share it with — and of the dignity available even in total aloneness. For readers whose isolation feels like a test, Santiago has passed harder ones.

03

A Gentleman in Moscow

Amor Towles · 2016

Count Alexander Rostov is sentenced to house arrest in a Moscow hotel and confined there for decades. What Towles makes of this enforced isolation is unexpectedly joyful — a meditation on how richly a life can be lived within constraints, and how connection finds its way through even the most unlikely circumstances. For readers who feel trapped by their isolation, Rostov is gently instructive.

04

The Plague

Albert Camus · 1947

Camus wrote his novel about a city quarantined by plague partly as an allegory for occupation, but it is also the most searching examination in literature of what isolation does to people over time — and of how solidarity can emerge within it, quietly, person by person, without announcement. For readers whose isolation has lasted long enough to feel normal, Camus maps the way back.

05

Robinson Crusoe

Daniel Defoe · 1719

Marooned alone on an island for twenty-eight years, Crusoe does the thing isolation eventually demands of everyone — he builds a life anyway, out of whatever is at hand. Defoe’s novel is the origin story of survival-through-isolation in Western fiction, and it remains oddly steadying: proof that a mind can furnish its own company, given time.

06

Life of Pi

Yann Martel · 2001

Adrift on a lifeboat with a Bengal tiger for two hundred and twenty-seven days, Pi survives his isolation partly through story — the tales he tells himself about what is happening to him. Martel’s novel is a reminder that the mind an isolated person keeps them company with is not a small thing; it can be the difference between drowning and staying afloat.

07

Together

Vivek H. Murthy · 2020

The former US Surgeon General makes the case that isolation is a health crisis rather than a personal failing, with the physiological evidence to back it. Useful if part of what you are carrying is the sense that being alone this much says something shameful about you. It mostly says something about how we now live.

08

Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging

Sebastian Junger · 2016

Junger asks why some veterans miss the war, and arrives somewhere unexpected: modern life has made us prosperous and profoundly separate. A short, argumentative book about what we lost when we stopped needing each other daily, and why isolation can feel wrong in the body even when nothing is wrong with your life.

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Poems about isolation

For when prose is not enough

Poems for the particular quality of an isolated hour.

“The Darkling Thrush”

Thomas Hardy, 1900

I leant upon a coppice gate
When Frost was spectre-gray,
And Winter’s dregs made desolate
The weakening eye of day.
 
At once a voice arose among
The bleak twigs overhead
In a full-hearted evensong
Of joy illimited.
 
So little cause for carolings
Of such ecstatic sound
Was written on terrestrial things
Afar or nigh around.

Hardy is standing in a dead landscape at the end of a century he has no faith in, and a shabby old thrush starts singing for no reason he can see. He does not claim to share the bird’s hope. He simply notes that something out there has it, which on the worst days is enough to be going on with.

“We Are Not Alone” (extract)

Wendell Berry, 1969

Within the circles of our lives
we dance the circles of the years,
the circles of the seasons
within the circles of the years.

Berry’s insistence on the cycles connecting all living things — the seasons, the years, the generations — offers a particular comfort to isolated readers: the reminder that aloneness is not the whole truth, even when it feels like it. You are part of something larger, even when you cannot feel it. Find it in The Selected Poems of Wendell Berry.

from “To Marguerite: Continued”

Matthew Arnold, 1852

Yes! in the sea of life enisled,
With echoing straits between us thrown,
Dotting the shoreless watery wild,
We mortal millions live alone.
The islands feel the enclasping flow,
And then their endless bounds they know.

Arnold’s image has never been bettered: each of us an island, aware of the water between us mostly when the tide comes in and reminds us where we end. It is not a comforting poem exactly. But there is real relief in seeing the condition stated so plainly by somebody who is not going to offer you a remedy for it.

Quotes & Prose

Quotes about isolation to keep

Lines for the long, quiet hours.

The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.

Mother Teresa

We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness.

Albert Schweitzer

Language has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone, and the word solitude to express the glory of being alone.

Paul Tillich

Remember: the time you feel lonely is the time you most need to be by yourself.

Douglas Coupland

The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.

F. Scott Fitzgerald

From Georgia

Pause here, if you need to

A short practice for sitting with isolation, whenever you need somewhere to land.

Guided meditation

Relieve Stress And Reconnect

A calming practice with gentle journal prompts, guiding you back to stillness and helping you re-establish a regular meditation habit.

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Short talk

Why You Feel Disconnected (Even When Life Looks Fine)

On the particular flatness of a life that looks perfectly good from the outside, and what tends to be underneath it.

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Guided meditation

People You Haven’t Met Yet

For making friends as an adult, when connection has stopped happening by itself. Not instructions for finding people, but a softening of the fear underneath, so you can turn up somewhere without performing.

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The Inner Peace Toolkit

The Inner Peace Toolkit

2 guided meditations, an Inner Peace Journal, an affirmations eBook, 10 printable affirmation prints and 10 calming phone wallpapers — small daily practices to come back to whenever you need to slow down and reconnect with yourself.

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The 21-Day Meditation Course

The 21-Day Meditation Course

Three weeks of short, guided meditations to help you build a calm, steady daily practice — gently softening how you meet stress, anxiety and overwhelm, one day at a time.

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Questions people ask

Reading for Isolation

If I only read one thing about isolation, what should it be?

If you only read one thing, begin with Stoner by John Williams. Williams’s rediscovered masterpiece follows a man whose inner life is far richer than anyone around him ever notices. And if a whole book feels like too much today, scroll to the poems below — “We Are Not Alone” by Wendell Berry can be read in a minute and asks nothing of you.

What can I read when isolation makes it hard to concentrate?

The poems are the place to go. “We Are Not Alone” by Wendell Berry is the shortest here and takes a minute or two. If you would rather hold a book, The Old Man and the Sea by Ernest Hemingway can be finished in one sitting. You can stop after one line if that is all you have in you today.

What are the best quotes about isolation?

Quotes about isolation worth keeping include “The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved.” (Mother Teresa), “We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness.” (Albert Schweitzer) and “Language has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone, and the word…” (Paul Tillich). You’ll find these and more in the quotes section above.

Are these books about being alone or about being lonely?

Both, deliberately, and they are not the same. A Gentleman in Moscow and The Old Man and the Sea are about solitude that holds. Stoner and Camus are about the other kind. Vivek Murthy’s Together is the only book here that treats it as a public problem rather than a private one. If you are not sure which you are dealing with, start with the novels: you will know by which one you recognise.

Curated by Georgia Clare, bibliotherapist and author of Quote Therapy — now in paperback & Kindle.
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