A Literary Prescription for
For the complexity, the joy, the grief, and the ongoing work of being exactly who you are.
LGBTQ+ identity is not a problem to be solved, but the literature around it holds something for every part of the experience — the coming out, the coming in, the complicated relationship with family and community, the grief for the years spent performing a different self, and the particular relief and joy of finally not having to. The books, poems, and words gathered here are for all of those parts, at whatever stage you find yourself in.
“We are the ones we have been waiting for.”June Jordan
Books
Books that understand LGBTQ+ experience from the inside, written by people who lived it.
Baldwin’s second novel — about an American man in Paris unable to accept his love for another man — is one of the most devastating accounts in literature of what it costs to refuse your own identity. Written in 1956 and still completely contemporary, it is essential reading for anyone who has ever tried to be someone they are not, and for anyone who knows the cost of that trying.
Bechdel’s graphic memoir about coming out as a lesbian while simultaneously discovering that her father had kept his own homosexuality secret is a formally extraordinary book about family, secrets, and the relationship between the stories we tell and the selves we become. It is funny, sad, and one of the most intelligent memoirs of the last thirty years.
Peters’s novel — about trans women, detransition, and unconventional family-making — is one of the freshest and most honest books about trans experience in recent fiction. It takes its characters seriously as full human beings rather than symbols, and it is extraordinarily funny. For trans readers in particular, it offers the rare gift of recognition.
Feinberg’s semi-autobiographical novel about a butch lesbian growing up in the 1950s and 60s is one of the foundational texts of queer literature — a book about survival, community, and the cost of existing outside the categories your culture provides. It remains one of the most important accounts of gender non-conformity ever written.
Published under a pseudonym when Highsmith feared career damage, this was one of the first lesbian novels in which both women survive the ending — radical in 1952 and quietly extraordinary still. The fact that Carol and Therese are allowed to choose each other, without tragedy as the price, felt like a revelation to generations of readers who were used to paying for queer love with death or exile.
On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous
Vuong’s debut novel — a letter from a queer Vietnamese-American son to his illiterate mother — circles the impossible task of explaining yourself to someone who cannot read you, in more than one sense. His prose is among the most beautiful of his generation, and the book’s exploration of queer identity within family, trauma, and immigrant experience has no real equivalent in contemporary fiction.
Cal narrates the story of his Greek-American family across three generations and two continents, slowly working toward the discovery of his own intersex identity and the long, difficult work of understanding what that means for who he is and who he is allowed to be. Eugenides writes identity not as a fixed thing to be found but as something lived and negotiated over an entire life.
Poems about LGBTQ+ identity
Poems from writers who knew exactly what it meant to be themselves.
“A Litany for Survival” (extract)
Audre Lorde, 1978
Lorde wrote for those who were told in every possible way that they were not supposed to exist — and wrote with a fury and tenderness that made survival not just possible but meaningful. Her work is essential reading for any LGBTQ+ reader who has internalised the message that they are too much, or not enough, or simply wrong.
“somewhere i have never travelled”
e.e. cummings, 1931
Cummings’s love poem — genderless, unashamed, precise about the particular vulnerability of loving and being truly seen — has offered readers of all identities a mirror for the experience of being known by someone else. Its lack of gendered language makes it one of the most genuinely inclusive love poems in English.
“The Bees” (extract)
Carol Ann Duffy, 2011
Duffy, Britain’s first female Poet Laureate, has written with consistent joy and precision about queer love across her career. This extract from her collection written after her partner’s serious illness is one of the most quietly ecstatic pieces of writing about same-sex love in recent poetry.
Quotes & Prose
Lines for the days when being yourself still takes courage.
There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others.
Mandy Hale
It is absolutely imperative that every human being’s freedom and human rights are respected, all over the world.
Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir
Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s okay. You’re here to live your life, not to make everyone understand.
Banksy
We should indeed keep calm in the face of difference, and live our lives in a state of inclusion and wonder at the diversity of humanity.
George Takei
No person is your friend who demands your silence, or denies your right to grow.
Alice Walker
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If you only read one thing, begin with Giovanni’s Room by James Baldwin. Baldwin’s second novel — about an American man in Paris unable to accept his love for another man — is one of the most devastating accounts in literature of what it costs to refuse your own identity. And if a whole book feels like too much today, scroll to the poems below — “The Bees” by Carol Ann Duffy can be read in a minute and asks nothing of you.
Start with the short forms on this page — the poems and the lines to keep — rather than a whole book. A poem or a single quote asks very little of you, and you don’t have to read in order, or finish anything.
Quotes about LGBTQ+ identity worth keeping include “There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful…” (Mandy Hale), “It is absolutely imperative that every human being’s freedom and human rights are respected…” (Jóhanna Sigurðardóttir) and “Not everyone will understand your journey. That’s okay. You’re here to live your life, not to…” (Banksy). You’ll find these and more in the quotes section above.
More than you might expect. A book can’t take LGBTQ+ identity away, but it can sit with you inside it — putting words to what’s hard to say, and reminding you that others have carried the same thing and kept going. Feeling understood is a real comfort.